So... over the weekend I mentioned something to my family that I have not said out loud before... I voiced my concerns over a personality change that I have noticed in myself over the last little while...
"I think that I lost my sense of humor when I got married..."
Of course my family said, "No you haven't, you're still funny!!!" Right... I really have. They even took a "poll" which was not an accurate poll because I was still in the room... with most of my extended family. They then proceeded to remind me of the funnier moments of my life... such as when I told my uncle that he looked like a walrus... or yelled at my grandpa to sit down in the middle of sacrament meeting (he was blessing the sacrament, I was in the pews). Again... ALL PRE MARRIAGE!!!
I don't know what happened to me, but I used to be really funny. I used to THRIVE on making people laugh! I've noticed this more as I have lived away from my family. It seems like when I go home the old goofy Meg comes out and when it's just me, hubby, and son... the boring, rule stickler, get your feet off my coffee table Meg comes out (I don't even have a coffee table...)
My point of this post is... nothing. I'm just acknowledging this phase in life. I don't know where it got lost or why, but the humor is a little lost right now. I think that a lot of it has to do with the fact that Trent didn't fall in love with me because I was so funny. I don't think that I pulled that trick out of the bag to woo my sweetheart. I've had some embarrassing times in life when I was trying to be funny and instead I think I stuck the ole' foot in the mouth a little too far... and that pushed this side of me onto the back burner...
So what am I going to do to bring the humor back into life? Not sure yet... but at least I can accept that it's gone and try to find it again... Have any of you noticed any personality traits that you have pushed aside when you became an adult?
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I'm still waiting to become an adult!!! I hope that I don't lose any qualities when I become an adult...that would stink. Besides, I don't ever want to grow up...grown-ups are boring (hehehe)
BTW...I think you're funny. We always had so much fun together and laughed more often than not when we would do things :)
I understand, and I feel bad that you're concerned about it! I don't think you've lost your sense of humor, I think it's just that different thing have become funny to you. You still laugh at me, so its not a complete lost cause! I'm prescribing an emergency GNO!
You know what I've lost? SEXY! I lost sexy when I became a mother . . . actually I think its the other way around, I became a mother because of the sexy. Well, whatever it is: Ashley's tryin' to get her sexy back!
I remember you being hilarious. We had so many good times together. I watched our video we made for Mike and Kevin a few nights ago and laughed my butt off. Evan didn't laugh once. I think sometimes we seem to lose things if maybe our spouse doesn't share the same things. Like Evan doesn't have the same sense of humor as me at all so I don't laugh about the same things when I'm with him. I love Trent to death, but maybe his sense of humor is different than yours and your family's is more like yours so when you're with them, you laugh more because you have more in common to laugh about. I do the same thing when I'm with my family. People at work always tell me I'm so laid back and they don't know how anyone could not get along with me, but when it comes to my own domain in my own home, I rule the roost and like you said, tell people to get their feet off stuff or whatever. I think becoming a wife and mother forces you to take that role and it's important to still be your fun self at times. Wow, this turned really long - but I know EXACTLY what you're talking about.
Um...you are still HILARIOUS! I laugh whenever I read your blog! (Like the little quote you put in there about having people get their feet of your "coffee table" :)--That was funny) Oh..and when you were first married, you and Trent came up to our house and I remember laughing my head off! h and you made jokes when Tru puked all over me! (That's why I stalk you..you're so funny...you're cool....so I stalk you.) :)
Sunday night at Steve's we laughed again about you thinking that you're not funny, you funny girl.
Love,
Mom
totally know what you mean ... i lost my "musician vibe", my sense of humor too. i think i used to be pretty funny ... and i know it's not a personality trait, but i've totally and completely lost my style, due to increased body size and reduced budget size and shopping with kids is just not fun.
but i agree with what ashely said about different things are funny now. and i agree with what julie said about us "adapting" to our husbands. case doesn't express emotion all too much, positive or negative, and i've noticed myself losing the humor a little cause of that. and it's funny, but sometimes i'm MORE emotional to compensate for his seeming lack of emotion. ridiculous...
it's weird, huh. getting to know the new you in your new role...
I really like your dry humor, especially when your frustrated at someone/something, but girl if you are 'more' humorous than what I've seen I can't wait until you found your humor again.
I also agree with everyone else our husband influence our behavior, negative or positive, more than we would like to admit. I personally feel like I have lost my calm/relaxed/laid back self. I think I am too worried about 'feet on the coffee table' than I need to be-especially with my husband. I am also concerned about it because I was proud at how I could recognize when something just wasn't important enough to get upset over.
How about when we workout we take 5 minutes dedicated to 'finding ourselves'. You can try to make me laugh and then take a turn at trying to make me mad and we'll see if I can remain calm. Sound like a good idea? I think so. :P
You're right. You are not funny anymore! You never make me laugh when we are hanging out. Not even at the smile or the wave. We don't even make things funny that really aren't supposed to be funny anymore. Maybe we are getting old.
JK....seriously....you have nothing to worry about.
I totally understand. I feel like I lost my sense of humor when I got married too. I also feel like I lost some of my patience... not a good thing. I guess part of it comes from experiencing things that I never expected to go through as a newlywed (a husband out of work, being the primary bread winner, etc). Maybe I'll find it somewhere down the road...
I think you're funny Meg! I've lost the little bit of being reckless that I once had. Now I'm nore over protective, safety minded, planning ahead and anal than ever!!!
Well, I found two pictures the other day of two girls chests while they were sticking them out...because they found my camera and thought they'd be funny :) So if you'd like, I send you those to remind you :)
I can totally relate, Paris. I feel like I'm not as funny since I got married either. I just don't kid around like I used to (and I used to kid around a lot - I mean, c'mon, I was a CAMP COUNSELOR!).
Sometimes I think that maybe I've gotten mature. But other times I just think that I've become boring!
I feel like I'm funnier when I'm around my friends from high school. I guess it's the same thing as when you're around your family members.
-Kindle
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