I really love this husband of mine...
It has been an interesting experience for the two of us. We have been through hard times in our marriage before. We are no strangers to trial, tragedy, and sadness, but it is a little different when it is something that happens to your own little family.
Trent and I have been married for 6 1/2 years... which is a long time. It feels like a long time. I think that we have a pretty good marriage. We do almost everything together, we love doing a lot of the same things, and even if we don't we do them anyway because we love each other. We aren't perfect, I tend to nag a little too much sometimes and Trent tends to tune me out when watching t.v., we are a pretty normal couple I think. I think that we have fallen a little into the trap of being too comfortable with each other and we might not try as hard as we used to to make each other happy... like I said I think that we are a pretty normal couple who has been married for any length of time...
However, in the midst of this trial in our lives I really feel like I am falling in love with him all over again.
I've been amazed at Trent's strength. He has been my rock. He's the only person in this world that I want to have as my rock. We both have different strengths and Trent has been so positive and optimistic through this whole ordeal and I am so glad that he is that type of a person. I've been reminded as to why I married him, and so so so grateful that he is the man that I chose to marry and to spend my life with.
I was looking at our wedding pictures today and thinking about how as a 19 year old girl I had no clue what being married and having a family was really about. We have done this journey together. It hasn't always been easy, but it's been so worth it. I think that if I could go back and tell the 19 year old Meg something I would give her a big hug and tell her to treat her new husband like the rare gem of a man that he is, because he will not only save her life one day (yes, he did really save my life once upon a time) but let her cry on him every night when life gets hard. That he will love her no matter what she says, thinks, or does, and work hard so that she can be the mother to her kids the way that she always wanted to be. I would tell her not to get after him so much when he throws his clothes on the floor, or eats fried chicken in bed, or leaves every cupboard in the house open instead of shutting it. There are lots of things that I would tell that Meg...
This experience has helped me to be more honest and open with my husband. There were lots of times before I would be sad or mad and hold in my feelings and just think that he should be able to read my mind and know what's bothering me. I've changed a lot. I tell him exactly how I'm feeling, thinking, and he just listens, never judging me. I love him a whole lot.
Many people don't know this but after graduating from school two years ago, Trent has decided to go back. In January he decided on a career path that he really wants to do, which requires a lot more schooling. At the beginning of the year we spent our time researching out different programs and applying to schools. He still has to finish some pre-requisites before applying to the program that he wants so he started taking some of those classes in May...
Three days after Clayton died we had another big life change in that Trent was home a whole lot less and is back at school. I'm so proud of him. I'm proud that he wants to do this so that he can better provide for his family. I'm glad that even with the situation going on he did not hesitate to start school again like we had planned. I miss him like crazy! I don't see him as much as I'd like to because of school and still working full time, but I think that it makes the time we have together that much better.
I feel like a very lucky girl to have this man as my partner. So lucky to have him. It's a privilege, really, to be his wife...
** Just because I'm sure people will be asking me, Trent wants to become a Nurse Anesthetist. They are the type of nurse that gives you anesthesia in the hospital, and epidurals. They work for the Anesthesiologist, and yes, I think that Trent would be perfect for this job. He watched me get my epidural three times with Clayton and afterwards I asked him if he thought he could really do that and he said, "Of course." Okay then...
13 comments:
You really have an amazing man there. I am glad you found him! Did you know there is a wonderful Nurse Anesthetist program right here in Lincoln Nebraska? (where we live) Great place to live if I do say so myself. Having some other family here might be kind of fun!
Sweet post. You're lucky to have each other! (and its nice to hear that other wives nag, and other husbands throw their clothes on the floor)
You deserve such a guy Meg! Your post really helped me think about what I deserve and to not settle for less. Thanks!
I'm glad you married Trent too and that in spite of the difficulty of this time, that it is helping you grow closer together as a couple. That's one reason we have trials - so we learn to appreciate what we have and become a better person in spite of the trials. I love you both (and Tru too, of course). Tell Trent thanks for taking such good care of my girl!
trent reminds me of aaron in the 'leave every single cupboard open' haha.
i love your guys love. isn't it grand??
I am also glad you have such a great guy around. I forget sometimes myself that the little bugs are just that little. Thanks for the reminder.
Megan...I love and miss you so much! Trent is amazing! You two are the perfect couple. I appreciate the time you guys took me out to dinner when I was struggling with life. Love you!!!
It is crazy that we have to make the most important decision of our life at such a funny stage in life. Young adulthood is great but I know that Heavenly Father was watching out for me so that I would end up with Rich. Heavenly Father knew what you would go through and that Trent would be the perfect mate. Yeah for wonderful husbands that are also such good dads.
You do have a wonderful husband. And, I think Trent is on an awesome career path and one that will pay off big time in the end. Nurse anesthetists do very well and just being in the healthcare field is so rewarding. I was so hesitant to go back to school after spending four years getting a business degree to go into a field where I was working hands on in a hospital and I am so glad I did...it has really changed my life and my outlook on everything. I really liked this post.
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I love the picture of Trent and Tru. So sweet.
What a beautiful tribute to Trent! I laughed so hard about leaving the cupboards open- funny how all husbands have their quirks! That's awesome that he's going to be a nurse anethetist!
You two make a perfect couple. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Don't you just love how your love for people can grow in ways you never imagined?
I LOVE the photo at the top.
That was beautiful. You really are lucky to have him. He's very lucky to have you too. We've had our moments (you know), but I can honestly tell you that I love and respect Trent. He's a great man.
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